Couple therapy and marriage counseling
I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. - Marilyn Monroe
It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.
- Andre Gide
To be a part of a couple, especially in a marriage, is to risk the possibility that your fears may come true and your hopes may be dashed. But what a profound opportunity to confront any illusions, and understand yourself and one another better.
It helps to have an experienced therapist in the room to address and see the patterns of misunderstanding (or correct understanding) and conflict in the couple. Early childhood experiences of closeness with others profoundly shapes how we feel it is okay to be in adult relationships. When these patterns impede relationships from thriving, it is time to reflect on the intensity and quality of experience within the disconnects. Then new ways of connecting can be learned that will increase intimacy and improve your marriage.